homeschooling · learning · parenting

Orthodox Homeschooling II

In my previous post, Orthodox Homeschooling I I made the statement that I believe there is no such thing as an Orthodox homeschool curriculum, nor will there ever be.  I would like to expound on that a little, and share my experience.   I apologize for the length of this post.  I hope you make it through.

It is obvious that there is not an Orthodox packaged curriculum available to purchase.  You know, the kind of curriculum that includes everything; all the subjects, all the books, all the worksheets, and even a wonderful timeline and schedule.  Some packaged curricula even come with extras like music, art, handicrafts, logic, philosophy, the list could go on and on.  However, my personal favorite is the new trend that is showing up on the homeschool educational scene; the worldview courses.  (Oh what I would give for an Orthodox worldview resource for my children.)  Alongside the packaged curriculum there are the thousands of subject or skill based individual resources.  If you have ever been to a homeschool bookfair you know that the amount of products available for Protestant and Catholic homeschoolers is almost limitless.

Every year I swear I will not go back to the annual bookfair in my area.  However, as I strolled the aisles this year, aisles packed full of eager and motivated homeschool educators, I began to feel a peace in that crowded room that I had not felt in the years since I converted to Orthodoxy.  Before I would look at all those products and wish with all my heart that I could stroll up to counters and purchase the materials I needed to create a wonderful Orthodox homeschool experience for my children.  I fantasized about what a Orthodox history program would look like, how wonderful to see pages full of the lives and histories of the saints, an intensive study of the Old Testament that revealed the true presence of the Trinity from the beginning.  Just think about an Orthodox art curriculum that taught the theology of the icon, or a science program that fully captured the essence of Genesis in the way that we Orthodox understand.  I cannot even put into words my grandiose ideas and and longings.  I could see it in my head, all laid out, all planned out, it was all there in my head.  However, it was not in my hands.  Those materials simply do not exist for Orthodox homeschooling parents.   
This year I was ok with that, I had peace.  This year I had come to terms with a few things inside myself.  More on that later.

Then the phase of creating an Orthodox curriculum myself started.  I have to admit that this was an undertaking that I as a new convert should have NEVER presumed to think I was in anyway capable of accomplishing.  I hope this does not offend anyone who is attempting this project.  This is just my experience.  After trying and failing in this project, I did at least learn a few things.  And these few things have remained the backbone of our homeschool life:

  • Prayer
  • Fasting
  • Almsgiving

My heart, as much as it can be, is Orthodox, but my mind was and still is in the process of being renewed.  Orthodoxy is not like any other religious pursuit, it’s not trading one systematic belief system for another.  (My spiritual father calls this trading one superstition for another.)   Avoiding this pitfall requires a complete overhaul of my mind.

Some that are further down the road than I am make the distinction between Western and Eastern approaches.  These two different and distinct approaches come into conflict very strongly when it comes to the nature of knowledge.  The way in which children are brought up to think (Orthodox phromena) is very different than their heterodox peers.

The Protestant and Catholic homeschool curriculum writers, publishers, and venders make promises that ensure parents of a Christian foundation, a Christian worldview, and Christian virtues. I would venture to say that no Orthodox curriculum can make such a claim.  There is no course of study, or acquisition of knowledge that can bring about those kind of results in the Orthodox world.  Christianity is not learned in that way. Just because I know alot about Orthodoxy does not make me a better Orthodox Christian.

A Word About the Orthodox Homeschool Materials Available

My absolute favorite resource to date is the Children’s Garden of the Theotokos.
Why?  I think this resource is so simplistic in its approach that some people may think that it is too juvenile or sparse.  I disagree.  I would suggest that all newly illumined families receive a copy of this wonderful resource upon conversion.  I know that it is marketed as a Kindergarten or Primary school resource, but do not let that deter you.  This guide helped me get into a rhythm of prayer at a slower pace, it helped me include my children at a level they could tolerate, and most importantly it directed me to the Church as my primary source in teaching and training my children.  We sing the songs to this day, we mark our days, we commemorate the hours, we look to the saints, and we cherish this resource as a precious jewel in our home.  Go slow, establish the rhythm the author lays out, do it over and over for a few years, and then you too will see this resource’s irreplaceable value.

Another wonderful resource is Journaling Throughout the Liturgical Year.
I have not personally used this resource, but my best friend has.  I looked over it a few years back, but decided not to purchase it only because I had already bought the Children’s Garden of the Theotokos.  I decided that these two resources used different approaches but had the same goal.  Look to the Church, Look to the Church.  It also encourages rhythm and the study of the saints.

Internet resources are a true treasure when it comes to creating an Orthodox home and lifestyle.  Two of my favorite blogs are:

St. Theophan Academy 
and
Charming The Birds From The Trees   

Here is why.  These two women share their liturgical life with us.  Both blogs are highly relational and beautiful.  At St. Theophan Academy we get to peek into the author’s home and heart.  Her creative ideas for making Orthodoxy a lifestyle, along with free resources to help us mothers build our own homes are a constant inspiration to me.  I especially love this author’s page Reading Through the Year of Grace.  I have used it to build my own calendar, and I love it.

At Charming The Birds From The Trees there is a different kind of wonderful.  I like to think that I drink in this blog like a warm cup of tea.  This author is so simplistic and humble in her sharing that I am a little jealous.  She is an artist, but the picture she is painting for me is one of true Orthodox womanhood.  I know that I am being dramatic, but honestly this blog means so much to me.  Her style and seasoned approach capture for me the heart of an Orthodox home, and as her children grow she seems to bring them right along with her.

There are countless other Orthodox mommy blogs, but these two stand out for me.  I have learned so much from both of these women.  I offer these resources at the beginning of this discussion for all of us who are new.  We need to marinate.  Visit these links and soak in the goodness.  Find your own inspiration and begin to be open to the Orthodox way.  It is truly a wonderful journey.

In conclusion, I would like to share one last thought.  After years of searching for the perfect Orthodox curriculum it dawned on me.  Why haven’t one of these gifted, seasoned, and highly creative moms in the Orthodox homeschooling circle not produced a curriculum by now?  I think there is a reason.  I have my opinion, but I could be wrong.  I hope that some of these moms will weigh in on this question.  My prediction is that in their hearts they have found peace in the Church, and that an Orthodox curriculum is not what they need, therefore they have not created one.  Orthodoxy is so rich, it is true, and it lacks nothing.

As the liturgical year ends we are invited to participate in the Dormition, a wonderful feast of completion and finality.  The Theotokos joins her son in glory, and this speaks so deeply to me as I prepare for another school year.  It is Christ who gives life to this flesh, it is Christ who raises to life dead bones, it is Christ who alone is called teacher.

homeschooling · learning · parenting

Orthodox Homeschooling

Through a series of trials and errors I have come to a realization, and I will make a bold statement; there is no such thing as an Orthodox homeschool curriculum, nor will there ever be.

There are no set courses that constitute a school of Orthodoxy.  What I do have is the life of the Church, which is the Life of Christ in the Spirit.  It takes a radical shift in my thinking to accept and trust that the “mind of Christ”, what is often called Orthodox phronema is not a subject to be taught in a classroom.  However, it is the most important pursuit I can encourage as a so called educator.  And that begs the question, “How can I, a mother in training myself, teach my ultimate desire, that my children have, or better yet, attain the mind of Christ?”  The answer is so counter culture, so educationally unorthodox, so against the norm, that at times I want to abandon this faith and escape back into my systematic, scholastic religious world.  I want to check boxes and make schedules, and teach facts, and be certain, and rely on ideology.  I want a curriculum.  If only I were still Catholic.  They seem to have this education thing down.

Orthodoxy is lacking, it is behind the times, it is not meeting my family’s needs.  These are my fears, these are my shameful frustrations.

And then I stop, and I listen, and I pray, and I know.  It is not a knowledge of this world, but the knowledge the Church offers.  I am encouraged by my spiritual father, by the pious mothers of the saints, by the saints themselves, and by the constant reminder, “Let Us Attend” that the Church is where my heart will find wisdom, where my children will become by grace what I try so desperately to teach them.

A homeschooling Orthodox family has to come to terms with the lack of Orthodox teaching materials.  This acceptance is not about doing without, but discovering the fullness of the life of the Church.  I too would love the ease and comfort of curriculum based education, but I am coming to the wonderful realization that my alternative is so much more.  In a series of posts, I hope to share with you what I have discovered after 10 years of homeschooling, four of which are post conversion.  I am not claiming that my way is perfect, and I by no means know what the ultimate Orthodox homeschool looks like.  However, maybe my experiences and yours will help all of us anxious Orthodox mothers to open our hearts and trust, to gain perspective and peace.

Please join me in this discussion.  Are you stressed about the upcoming school year?  Are you desperate to find an Orthodox curriculum?  Or do you have suggestions that would help us all be better mothers and teachers?  Please comment, and let us hear from you.  Together we are better.  Happy Homeschooling!   
faith · family · learning

Liturgical Life: April

APRIL 2013
Great Lent is in full swing, and things are going pretty well around here.  This year was a challenge when it came to what we as a family were able to do as far as fasting goes.  I am half way through my fifth pregnancy, and cooking and eating are a challenge.  I get so sick when I am pregnant.  For the full story go here.  I also struggle with severe anemia and swelling due to lack of protein. So, after discussing things with our spiritual father we decided that the best thing at this time for our family was to not fast completely, except the regular Wednesday and Friday fasts.  Instead, we are going without television, eating out, and keeping our meals simple and small.  Also, we have made time around the icon corner a family priority and added a devotional that we all listen to and discuss.  In the beginning I was dreading Lent, because I felt that my condition was going to hinder my whole family.  But, God is good, and so far we have had some very meaningful moments of sincere reflection and struggle.  I love the Lenten season.

What we are reading:
First Fruits of Prayer: A Forty Day Journey Through the Canon of Saint Andrew
Raising Them Right: A Saint’s Advice On Raising Children
The Story of Saint Mary of Egypt
Children’s One Year Bible: 1 Samuel: The Life of King David

Special Prayers:
The Saint Ephraim Prayer
Teaching and learning to prostrate.

Special Services:
Presanctified Liturgy at Saint Arsenius Hermitage
Attending a talk at St. Barbara’s Orthodox Church given by Father Sergius:  The Vulnerability of the Incarnation.

Special Projects:
Cleaning the Yard from the winter.
Taking junk and trash to the recycle facility near our house.
Cleaning out excess from the house to donate to Goodwill.
Visiting Nouna Stella and Nouna Leann for an afternoon.  Nouna Stella’s health is poor these days and we hope to bring some cheer.
Organizing a Garage Sale.

learning · summer

Snow Cone Summer

 

  Snow cone season officially starts at the end of May here in our neck of the woods, and it lasts all the way through August.  However, buying snow cones for six people can be a very expensive summer indulgence.  My kids know this, and they accept the fact that a snow cone is a special treat and not an every afternoon occurrence.  That still doesn’t stop them from wanting a snow cone almost every afternoon in this egg frying Texas heat.  So, they have taken it upon themselves to make their own snow cones.  I am amazed at my girls sometimes.  They are so industrious and  creative.  The fact is, I am not going to buy six snow cones everyday, so the girls came up with a great solution.


    

    Adalay won a snow cone maker back in the fall at the County 4-H food show, and it came with a few snow cone flavors.  They tasted horrible, so when they were gone, what did the girls do?  Without any help from me they learned how to make their own snow cone syrup from internet recipes and instructions, and amazingly their homemade concoctions are delicious.  They have even made dill pickle snow cones, that is Sophia’s favorite.  I provide support by eating every snow cone they make me…it is a real sacrifice, I know, but somehow I manage.  


    

    Nothing makes a Mama happier than to see kids take responsibility for their own happiness.  Instead of frowning around about my refusal to buy them what they wanted, what they thought would make them happy, the girls just made due with what they had.  They accepted my “no”, and they made the best of it.  Sure, their snow cones are not Hawaiian Thunder Snow Cone Hut quality, but they are made by their own effort.  Kids love things they make themselves.  I take lessons from my girls all the time.  When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.    





Know thyself, accept thyself, better thyself.


    Make your own snow cone creations!


        

learning · rabbits

Bunnies! 6-2-2012

Monday, July 2, 2012.

    Babies of any kind are wonderful.  There is just something about babies that makes everything seem right in the world.  Today, Sally, our Broken Satin doe rabbit had eight baby bunnies, all healthy, all adorable.  We were not for sure if she was even pregnant.  Breeding rabbits is crazy, blink and its over.  So, when we put Sally in Louie’s cage the whole process took only about three minutes!  It’s hard to trust that it took, if you know what I mean, when the breeding is so simple.  The girls have been watching Sally to try to determine if in fact she was bred.  They would come in from the barn and say things like, “She sure is fat, mom.” or “She sure is calm, mom.”
(Rabbit does settle down when they are bred.)

    About a week ago we put a nesting box in the cage with her.  Everyday the girls would look for signs that she was about to give birth.  When a pregnant rabbit is due they build a nest in a nesting box by pulling out their own hair and forming a nest from the hair and hay.  We provided the nest box and hay, and Sally would do the rest.  For several days Sally did nothing in the nesting box, and the girls were almost convinced that we were wrong, Sally was not pregnant.  Then all of a sudden, 24 hours before she gave birth, Sally built the most magnificent nest.  The hair and straw hay in her box looked like a bird’s nest, a soft bed of warmth and safety, and we were amazed at the site of it.  Excitement began to build!  We did it, Sally did it, her nest meant that we were going to have baby bunnies at any time!
    Caroline went to the barn the morning of July 2nd, and she came out with the biggest smile on her face.  I was on the back porch drinking coffee, and I could see her smile from where I was sitting.  She immediately went and woke Adalay and Sophia.  Sally had given birth to seven baby bunnies early that morning, although they looked more like wet rats.  The excitement and joy was tangible.  When daddy called to check the status, everyone was so excited to tell him.  He was feeling the joy of new life, too.  It was a great day.  Now if we can keep the rabbits alive in this intense Texas heat.  Slade put a sprinkler on the roof of the barn to come on automatically during the hottest part of the day.  We have other rabbits also, and it is important to keep them from getting too hot as well.  

     Rabbits are a wonderful learning experience, and a significant part of our homeschool life.  One unique benefit is that the girls have the opportunity to learn about the natural process of procreation in a safe environment.  With animals, it is what it is, and there is little room for embarrassment or awkwardness.  The facts of birth can be observed without any moral judgments or complicated explanations.  Rabbits also provide an opportunity for the girls to observe the frailty of life, but also how amazingly resilient and strong the life force is.  Caring for Sally in her time came naturally for us all, it is amazing how we as humans know innately that we must protect life.  We are caretakers by nature, and raising animals, even caring for pets, helps develop that instinct in my kiddos.  They are learning to be stewards of life through observing nature and the life cycle.  Hopefully, they too will build nests as magnificent as Sally did when it is their turn to have babies and care for them.  I know I am speaking metaphorically, however all the lessons learned in the Bunny Barn are real, and I am thankful for them.